Over the course of my sexually active life, I have heard countless numbers of men brag on their penises, praise themselves about how well they perform, and gloat about their confidence in a woman's loyalty to them simply based on how well they "lay the pipe down". The more and more I heard these inflated stories about their sexual performance, the more I began to examine their relationships to see just how much loyalty these women were actually giving these egotistical "dick focused" beings.
When I began to do my research, I discovered that the loyalty wasn't necessarily given because love for the man was at the center, but because she was in love with the sex. I figured it was time for me to write an article for the men that may be using their sexual skills to secure love. Pay attention!
Believe it or not, but there are a group of women who have sex drives and mind sets just like men where sex is nothing more than a way to release and a way to satisfy their sexual desires. They look at men as sexual objects, use them for their needs then send them packing.
If you want a relationship that has the potential of reciprocated love, intimacy and longevity, you must look for a woman that is interested in more than what you hold in your pants. Having a woman "dick-matized" will not secure her loyalty to you, but to the sex that she will crave multiple times in a week depending on her sex drive. Her motivations to care about you and do for you will only be based in lust and eventually, she will begin to see that the true intimacy she craves is waiting somewhere else with someone else. If you are a man seeking to find loyalty and love by slanging D around town, chances are you will not find real love and you will create a cult following of psycho stalker chicks who would love nothing more than to devour you sexually and then leave you high and dry. Sure, it may be an ego boost to know that your penis is a coveted item, but eventually every person wants to be sincerely cared about and desired beyond sexual attraction.
So the next time you decide to lead with your penis and not your personality, think twice about what you really want out of a relationship and keep sex for when the time is right to connect with the woman you are pursuing.
3 Comments
T. Montre’
Very true,.very helpful,very convicting. Thanx 4 this one.
Naina
Hi Nellemarie,Thanx for your comments. I can uenrnstadd that you are frustrated. The dating process can be one of the most frustrating things we go thru in life. But the good news is it doesn’t have to be.A person can join a gym but that doesn’t mean they will get in shape. The game has be played a certain way. In order to win any game one must first uenrnstadd the rules.Are there some men who lie and misrepresent themselves, even on the paid sites? Absolutely. But you can’t focus on them. Remember you only need ONE good guy. it doesn’t make a difference how the majority of men are. You simply need to focus on finding and attracting the right guy.I can say this. if you think dating is a chore and there are no good men out there that is what you will find. Your attitude determines your altitude. You have to look at online dating from the man’s perspective. Why should he contact you? What is it in your profile that is going to make u stand out? Or do you simply sound like everyone else?Just b/c you join an online site and post a profile doesn’t mean you’re going to meet someone. You can join a gym, heck u can even go to the gym every day but if you’re not doing things the right way you won;t get the results you desire. If you’re not getting the results you desire is it the gyms fault?If you’re not getting the results you desire it’s b/c of 1 of 2 reasons1) you’re doing something u shouldn’t be doing?2) you’re not doing something you should be doing?Why is it that some women have no problem finding and attracting men online and others struggle?It’s not that there are no good men out there, it comes down to #1 or #2 above. I know you may not want to hear this but it is time to look in the mirror and see what it is you may be doing/not doing that.This is not meant to make you wrong or blame you for what is happening. I think we’re all doing the best we can. But it really isn’t as difficult as it appears.If you want to give up dating that is your prerogative. But how will you ever find the love you want if you do?
Lay
What about this scenario?
“She loves you, she doesn’t love your penis.”
The relationship (marriage) is great. The sex is terrible.